Posts categorized “Music and Love”


Love Inspires Musical Composition

It’s no accident that so much music, from country music to operas, is about love.  The lyrics to country music songs often have a theme about the composer’s awesome partner or the loss of a love.  Well-known, beautiful classical music like Mozart’s “Concerto for Clarinet in A Major, 2nd Movement,” and Eine Kleine Nachtmusik may turn your heart to thoughts of love. Ravel’s “Bolero” is a sensual classical favorite that can put you in the mood for romantic love.   Many classical composers wrote music especially for their lovers.  In 1810 Beethoven wrote “Für Elise” and noted that it was for his immortal beloved.  There is some debate as to whether it was written for the woman he was in love with at that time, Therese Malfatti, or for his long-time lover, Therese van Brunswick.  It’s also unknown whether Elise was a nickname for Therese or whether the publisher misread Beethoven’s handwriting.  We will probably never know which of these women (if either one)  inspired him and earned the title of his “immortal beloved.”

Music Plays a Role in Romance

Charles Darwin, in The Descent of Man and Selection in Relation to Sex, stated that the need to find a mate was the pressing requirement of evolution.  He then suggested that, among humans, music played an important role in sexual selection.  Music can powerfully intensify and move your feelings, emotions and intellect all at once.   When you attend a Broadway show or romantic movie that stirs your emotions, be sure to get the soundtrack.  If you hear your partner say, “Oh, I love that song,” download that song or buy a CD with that song included. Listen to some romantic harp music at

What are some of your favorite love songs?




Your Memory of Music Creates Network of Memories

When you hear music, it’s not stored separately, but with all other aspects of the situation that you perceived. The smells and sights of the place, your mood, the people you were with, what you were doing, are all stored together and connected with the music, often in detail. Do you have some favorite songs that bring up memories of certain friends or family members? When you hear one of those songs, you may find yourself back in another time and place, remembering a certain party, encounter, or even what you did after the party. The music may bring back the entire scene and mood, and maybe even the reason for the mood.

Smells Trigger Emotional and Nostalgic Memories

Scent brings up memories faster than about anything else. Smells stimulate nerve impulses which travel to a part of the brain called the olfactory system. The olfactory system sends the information to the limbic system, then we become aware of the emotions connected to the smell. The limbic system interacts with the emotion and memory centers in the brain, but not with more developed regions. That is why memories sparked by aroma bring up feelings of pain, pleasure, affection, anger, etc., rather than details.

Music and Smell Are The Two Strongest Memory Triggers

Music travels from the auditory system to the brain, activating both left and right sides of the brain. Music heard at a certain dinner party can bring back memories of people’s faces, the taste of the food, the environment, the conversation. Add to this the smell of certain food, perfume, scent of a flower, etc., which will bring back a  certain mood. No wonder we love to eat out or gather for a meal while listening to music!

Listen to some timeless classical music from the harp.



How Music Travels to Your Brain

  1. First, the sound waves travel through the air.
  2. Next, the outer ear collects the sounds.
  3. Then the middle ear sends the sound waves to the inner ear, where they cause the eardrums, small hairs and bones to vibrate.
  4. This creates nerve signals that the brain understands. The brain changes this energy into electrical energy and sends the impulse to the cerebral cortex, the part of the brain that controls thought, perception and memory.
  5. From there the cerebral cortex sends the impulses to the response centers of the brain that control emotion, anxiety, pleasure, arousal and creativity.
  6. Next in line is the hypothalamus, a tiny area deep in the brain that controls many autonomic functions, heart rate, respiration, blood pressure, body temperature, and the nerves to the skin and stomach.
  7. Finally, your cortisol, the stress hormone, drops and your DHEA and dopamine (romantic and happy chemicals) go up. The pheromones (sex hormones) kick in.

All of this happens in less than a second, just because you chose to put on some music that you enjoy. Learn more about the power of music with my book, Music, Healing and Harmony.




Music and Love Are Common in All Religions

Over the years, I have served as a church organist and harpist, playing for over ten denominations. I can’t imagine a worship service without music.  Singing about love is the common thread that connects the different churches – love of God or Higher Power, love of other people, and love of nature and beauty (including music).

All Religions Use Music to Sing About Love

The bible verse, “God is Love,” I John, pretty much says it all. Many hymns that are sung in church are about love. “Love Divine, All Loves Excelling” by Charles Wesley, is a good example. Many Unity churches sing “Let There Be Peace on Earth” at the end of each service. “Love Lifted Me,” “You Will Know We Are Christians by Our Love” and “O Love That Will Not Let Me Go” are more familiar hymns about love.

Use Beautiful Music for a Spiritual Connection

Whether you attend a place of worship or not, you can feel a spiritual connection by listening to some beautiful music – religious, classical, jazz, new age music or another type of music. Be quiet, listen, observe, feel a sense of gratitude for life, for the beauty and love that’s all around you. The harmony in the music will transfer to inner harmony, which leads to good will and love for others.
Listen to some timeless hymns to feel the love that surrounds us.
What is your favorite music to help you get in touch with God or to meditate?



The Power of Music

Music is mind-altering, legal and free or low-cost, and has no negative side effects. Music can help in healing, change your mood, help you get to sleep, increase your brain power and make you forget your troubles.  I can think of at least 7 wonders of music.

1. Music is invisible.
Music is sound waves or vibrations traveling through the air. You can’t see the sound waves unless you intentionally measure the speed of the sound waves with a mechanical tuner and calculate that speed in numbers, or hertz. Everything in existence, including music, is in a state of continuous vibration. We have the power to manipulate and control energy through the vibrations of music.

2. Printed music is a universal language.

Musicians worldwide use the same music when learning a piece or song. It doesn’t matter whether the musician lives in Austria, United States, United Kingdom, Russia, France, India, China – or anywhere else – music doesn’t need to be translated.

3. Music is healing.

Healing music isn’t just a new age fad. Pythagoras, who lived about 580 to 500 B.C.E., was known to seriously use music for healing. He was a Greek philosopher and mathematician, and also played the lyre (now known as the harp). He called his method “musical medicine.” Music is now used to control pain, ease depression and anxiety, aid in stroke recovery, prevent seizures, control blood pressure, help insomnia, and much more.

4. Music can change your mood in a few seconds.

Music can almost “possess” you and change your mood in a few seconds. An old song can bring back happy or sad emotions, as if time stood still.  Music can be inspirational, relaxing, or invigorating. Music has the power to overwhelm our senses, sending a message to the nervous system and brain.

5. Music can increase intelligence.

It seems incredible that something as enjoyable as music could increase your ability to learn, improve your memory and make your brain work better – but it’s true. Making music activates links to several parts of the brain because it’s a multisensory experience.

6. Music helps you relax.

Think of stress as dis-harmony or dissonance. Music is about dissonance then harmony, resolving chords and melodies. The harmony and beauty in music, whether listening or performing, affects your entire body and mind as you become in sync with the music.

7. Music brings up memories.

Music links our memories to songs we’ve heard before. You may be brought to tears by a song that was playing at a funeral. You may remember a friend or former lover when you hear a song that you heard together. For adults, listening to songs from our teenage years reminds us of carefree younger times.

To learn more about each of these 7 wonders of music, go to:

“How powerful is your magic sound.”
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, The Magic Flute, 1791.



Love Pops Up Everywhere

Romantic love is the inspiration for movies, operas, songs and marketing. However, love is everywhere. Think of the phrases, “Love one another,” “I love life,” “I love that song,” and the list could go on and on.

7 Ways to Love Others

1. Accept others, whether you agree with them or not.
2. Treat others with respect.
3. Be happy for others when they have good fortune, win or accomplish something.
4. Forgive others, (even if you don’t want to forget).
5. Show compassion for others. “I’m sorry. Is there anything I can do?” is a  very powerful phrase.
6. Be courteous. Motion a driver to go ahead when you’re at a 4-way stop sign, hold open a door for someone, let someone in line ahead of you.
7. Encourage others. Be a cheerleader rather than a doom predictor.

Love Life – Trees, Flowers, Rainbows, Babies, Smiles

There is so much to love about life, and we can choose to focus as much as possible on the beautiful or on the ugly. The song, “What a Wonderful World,” is a good way to use music for falling in love with life.




De-stress With Music

Are you worried about buying the “correct” gifts?  Are you overwhelmed with all the parties, excitement, hustle and bustle of the holidays?  Take some time to relax with calming music.  When you are relaxed by the music, beta-endorphins are released, affecting all your cells and allowing your body to heal itself. Try a little visualization. Put your problems (challenges) in an imaginary balloon and let it go up into the universe. You can get it back if you really want it! Say to yourself, “I release this challenge into the universe.” As you listen to the music, let the vibrations of the music carry your stressful challenges away. Now, take three deep breaths. Let your stomach expand to make room for the air as you take the air into your lungs.  Breathe out slowly; feel the air on your lips as you exhale. Breathe with the rhythm of the music. Now, just relax and enjoy the music for a few minutes. You will be receiving answers subconsciously, even if you aren’t aware of this. This will accomplish more than trying too hard to figure out solutions to your challenges!

Select Your Music for Relaxation

Some ideal relaxation music for me would be by a  harpist, cellist,  flutist or chanting .When you choose your music for relaxation, make it what you enjoy and love, not what someone told you was the “correct” music to play for a certain disorder or state of mind. What song makes you remember a time when you were totally relaxed? Start a collection of those songs for your de-stress time. Soon you’ll know which ones work best for helping you reach a state of relaxation and peace. After a while, you will build up a habit whereby your relaxation music will get you to the quiet time sooner and sooner. Your brain will build connectors and make the association between your special music and your time to relax.
If you love some of the Christmas music, use that.  If you’re tired of hearing it everywhere, choose something entirely different.

Use Upbeat Music to Beat the Blues

Many people get depressed during the holidays.  You can use music to get out of  blues, too.  Choose music with a faster tempo and a fun rhythm – something that will make you want to tap your toes or swing.  Some of the Christmas music is like this, as well as any of your favorite songs.  Let the music lift you up, and take you to a lighter place.  Christmas is a time for joy, and music can help you enjoy the holidays.

Check out some relaxing harp music for yourself or for gifts.


St. Valentine’s Day – a Liturgical Celebration, then a Romantic Holiday

St. Valentine of Rome was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to wed. As a farewell before his execution he wrote a letter and signed it “Your Valentine.”

In the High Middle Ages it turned into a day for romantic love. Lovers showed their adoration for each other by giving flowers, candy and greeting cards, known as “valentines.” After the 19th century the handwritten valentines became greeting cards, and now e-cards, Facebook messages, texts and emails.

Music is Used to Express All Kinds of Love

You can feel a spiritual and/or romantic connection by listening to some beautiful music – classical, religious, jazz, new age, popular or another kind.  Music can enhance a romantic connection. Music can help you feel a sense of gratitude for life, for the beauty and love that’s all around you.  The harmony in the music will transfer to inner harmony, which leads to good will and love for others. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be either/or (spiritual or romantic). It’s about all kinds of harmony and love. What is your favorite song about love?

If music be the food of love, play on. –  Shakespeare,  Twelfth Night




Opening the Gates of the Heart


Five important musical selections for your wedding ceremony

1. Pre-Ceremony or Prelude Music.
2. Processional for Parents/Grandparents
3. Processional for the Bridal Party
4. Bride’s Entrance
5. Recessional

Pre-Ceremony or Prelude Music
The music before the ceremony sets the mood, preparing everyone for the beautiful vows. This music can be classical, love songs, religious music, folk or any combination. Often these selections are left up to the musician.  Tell the musician if you have any favorites and if you prefer a certain style of music.  Some churches permit only classical and religious music, so if you’re getting married in a church you will need to check this out.

Parents/Grandparents Entrance
The family can be seated to a continuation of the pre-ceremony music or to a specially chosen song.  The bride’s mother is the last person to enter before the bridal party.
Possible Choices for Family Entrance
-Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring by J.S. Bach
-Ave Maria by Schubert

Processional Music for Bridal Party
The music for the bridal party begins either when the officiant and groom come to the altar or immediately after this. The groomsmen may come in with the groom and officiant or with the bridesmaids. The music for the bridal party is traditionally grand, majestic and stately.  Sometimes the family and the entire bridal party enter to the same music.

Possible Choices for Bridal Party
-Canon in D by Pachelbel
-Air from Water Music by Handel
-18th Variation by Rachmaninoff
-Trumpet Voluntary by Clarke

Bride’s Entrance
The bride’s entrance is announced by a fanfare and everyone standing. The bride can enter to the traditional Bridal Chorus (Here Comes the Bride) or other music.

Possible Choices for Bride’s Entrance
-Bridal Chorus (Here Comes the Bride) by Wagner
-Canon in D by Pachelbel
-Hornpipe from Water Music by Handel

Recessional Music
The recessional music begins at the end of the ceremony, either after the kiss or after the officiant introduces the couple.  Of course this music will be joyous and grand.

Possible Choices for Recessional Music
-Wedding March (Traditional) by Mendelssohn
-Ode to Joy by Beethoven
-Spring from “Four Seasons” by Vivaldi
-Trumpet Voluntary by Clarke

These songs can be interchanged between different parts of the ceremony. Samples of these selections and more can be heard on the harp CD, Wedding Magic.  &